My fiance's family is really starting to piss me off. It's not her mom and dad - they've been pretty good through the whole process. Here's the story:
When we announced our engagement two years ago we told everyone that we were planning a wedding at the beach and individually invited the members of her family that we thought would attended.
For two years both her aunt (godmother) and grandmother have said they were excited and coming. Well about 1 month ago, the wheels started to fall off. We had made room in the large beach house we are renting to lodge wedding guests for her aunt, uncle and two cousins, because all along they said they were coming. last month she tells us that her husband thinks that it's too far to drive, too expensive to fly, and doesn't want the kids missing a day of school. Meanwhile the stuck up a$$ just bought the 16 yr old daughter a Mercedes and takes the kids out of school for a week at a time to vacation in the Bahamas. The aunt says she will TRY to fly partially there and rent a car the rest of the way, but she hasn't given a definitive answer and hasn't sent in her response card so I'd bet any money she's not going to show.
Her grandmother sent in her response card that she was attending and even asked for hotel information, but appearantly has changed her mind 1 month from the wedding because it's too far to drive. Of course she doesn't have the decency to call and tell us personally, no she calls Jamie's mom instead . . . . coward!
Now Jamie is only going to have her mother and dad representing her family and it's just not fair. She deserves better! What really pisses me off is that there are cousins in her family that are around our age that she really enjoys spending time with, but weren't invited because we were trying to keep it to immediate family. Now it's too late to try to invite them because they'll know they weren't the first choice and even if we got around all that awkwardness, it's getting too late to arrange work schedules and the whole mess.
Neither of us would have been the least bit upset if two years ago they said they wouldn't be able to make it. We kind of expected some of that because we were having a far away wedding, but don't lead us on up to 25 days before the event.
why do people have to be such self absorbed a$$holes??? If I say I'm going to do something / be somewhere even to a relative stranger, I'm there. I'm careful about the promises I make, but when I make them, I keep them.