The key to a happy marriage

[Wayward Clam]

Can be found HERE.

[Cleetus]

And who can convince their significant other of that???

In someways I agree, I had a chance for a major fling that she would not have heard about, while we were not having a very close time together. I, by some miracle of god cause she was fine as all get out, turned it down, pushed her away while she was sucking on my ear and begging me to go with her. For a long time it ate me up, esp as things did not get better at home. I do wonder how things would have been, or how much more calm and focused I would have been, if I had gone home with her, then come back home with full intentions on making things better and not thinking about what might have been and all of the grudges.

Then again, guilt would have ate me up as well.

[kato2274]

I'll be sure to show my wife that when I get home from work

but on a more serious note, I personally think cheating is basically cowardly and chicken$hit. Once you're in a commited relationship, I feel you should be commited and loyal to your significant other. If it's gotten to the point where you are thinking about seeing other people then how commited and loyal are you really being? Take a break from the relationship to do see other people. Be honest, tell him/her you're not happy and would like to see other people for a while. I have no problem with people who want to be single free agents and basically screw anything that moves, but once you agree to be exclusive with someone, you (willingly) have given up that priveledge. If you want it back then get out of the relationship. It's simply a matter of respect for the person you profess to love so much.

Otherwise it's just insecure dishonest chicken$hit behavior. It's a betrayal of trust on so many levels. Cheating would ruin my marriage, no doubt about that. If she cheated on me, I would never trust her again, and we'd be discussing the divorce terms and custody options of our son (who is on the way) The scenario would be the same if I cheated on her. we've been perfectly clear with each other on this issue.

not that I have strong feelings on this issue

[Cleetus]

You really need to stop waffling on the issue and pick a side

[Stalemate]

Trust is so easy to lose and so difficult to regain, that I would not consider cheating on my wife for any reason.

There's a bond that grows with time (been with her 10 years now ) that cannot be replaced by a fling or a new relationship.

I can't see how knowingly cheating on my wife - betraying her trust, reducing our bond to just another relationship in my life, risking God knows what kind of VD is going around now and risking the emotional/psychological of my children - would improve my couple or my family.

I suggest the reason the marriages work better in appearance is simply because the cheating spouse will work harder at not being found out - not because they actually care more about the other person. It's a selfish motivation and does not reflect what love truly is, a selfless giving of one's self to another.

BTW, I used to be the kind of person that did date multiple partners more or less secretly, even while dating my wife. I can't begin to tell you how much time and effort it takes to overcome such behaviour when it comes out in the open (I told her before getting married). And it will come out in the open eventually.

[Ya_know]

I see it your way kato. I have the same agreement with my wife.

Let's face it; people cheat because they want new sex, better sex, forbidden sex, whatever. If it is a relationship with a commitment of monogamy, you have to look within for the excitement...It isn’t easy to do either. We all change, men get fat, women get fat, men lose hair, then start growing it on their backs; while women get fatter. We also forget what was so much fun about sex in the beginning, but it isn’t hard at all to rekindle.

Here is the deal, if you want to cheat on your spouse try something new with them. Get a porno, and have your partner watch it with you; but it has to be a good one, not one of those gang bangin’ types. Anyway, try reading a book on positions. Discuss what you can feel comfortable with, and spice things up. If your spouse wont work with you and you have reached your wits end, ask them to try something new, and work with them. Or just terminate the relationship if you must. But cheating isn’t an answer—it’s a copout.

[Wayward Clam]

That is very well spoken Ya_Know.

[LagMonster]

The front of the article reads:

"TURIN, Italy -- Thou shalt not commit adultery . . . unless you want a stronger marriage! According to a new study, husbands and wives who cheat on each other are more likely to stay together.
"

If you cheat you aren't together, am I the only one who thinks these people are whacked.

[King Grover]

I'm just wondering if anybody noticed where that article came from.



the Weekly World News.

[drewmaztech]

The Weeky World News?
Oh, then maybe we should get BatBoy's opinion on all this? Well it doesnt matter because satan's going to eat North America next week anyhow.

I would think that building years of trust between a couple would make the relationship stronger then working to put up a front.

[PuterGeekGirl]

Well I can't get to it from here at work...filter by that damn WebSense(less).

But I don't see how cheating makes things better, unless (as already stated) its cuz the cheater is trying to cover things up.

I agree as others have stated, years together and building trust (seems to me anyway) the way to stay together...

But then again, what do I know??

[DANIMAL]

bah! thats just some guy that got caught and has got his mind so screwed up that he really truly believes that cheating is good.

maybe if your wife is a coimplete loser it would work...

[PuterGeekGirl]

Originally posted by DANIMAL
bah! thats just some guy that got caught and has got his mind so screwed up that he really truly believes that cheating is good.

maybe if your wife is a coimplete loser it would work...

Or she'd have to have her head so far up her a$$ one would wonder how she sees the light of day!


My old man knows already (we aren't married yet) that if he cheats, he pretty much gets his thing handed to him on a silver platter...for mounting or whatever else he chooses to do with it!

[DANIMAL]

Originally posted by PuterGeekGirl
Or she'd have to have her head so far up her a$$ one would wonder how she sees the light of day!


My old man knows already (we aren't married yet) that if he cheats, he pretty much gets his thing handed to him on a silver platter...for mounting or whatever else he chooses to do with it!

or a model for a smurf village in a museum

[Cleetus]

Baaaaaaaaa

You people are just way to old fashioned. Swinging is the wave of the future, wife swapping is a blast, and all women were put here on earth to pleasure the one and only CLEETUS!!!!