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[quote]Originally posted by opiate:
<strong>This is killing me more then I know...
A woman that started working for my company about 5 months ago is "my type". I can see it in her eyes. I know things would be great if we hooked up. I just know it.
"Houston: We have a problem!"
Yep, she's already got a man. We've been out to lunch together off and on over the last few months. We have allot in common and just sorta "click". Her and I can be in a crowd of co-workers and separate are selves from everyone else’s conversation and be in our own little world. She always wants to be included in whatever I'm doing. In meetings we always sit side-by-side, we always go to breakfast together in the morning...stuff like that.
I don't want to screw anything up with her by asking her to dinner or out for a drink. But I want to ask. How do I not screw things up? I have no clue if she is interested in me. A few pals at work are always referring to us as b/f & g/f.
I really want to respect that she has a b/f but what if I'm making a huge mistake by not asking her out? :confused:
Shed some light please.</strong><hr></blockquote>
I would leave it alone,it's not fair to her man,and it's messing with fire overall.
thats my opinion.
maybe she is not looking for anything ,maybe she is just friendly,and she loves her man.
either way,,be very careful.
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[quote]Originally posted by opiate:
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A) I'm positive that we are close enough that I could ask her out and regardless of the outcome she would not consider it as sexual harassment. She is a respectable grown person who has nothing to gain by pulling some bull**** sexual harassment charges.
B) This whole sexual harassment thing is crap. I would never sexually harass any female, therefore I will not worry about it.
C) But it is something to think about, i guess.</strong><hr></blockquote>
A) Never assume you know what someone else will do (My wife of 17 years left for another man 12 years ago and still bugs me to take her back). Emotions, especially hurt feelings, can change everything in a heartbeat.
B) It's not about whether you would harrass her or anyone else. It is about what someone claims you said or did. (see A)
C) Good idea. Keep thinking...she might well be available, interested, and worth the risk of losing your job--just keep the potential for trouble in mind before you decide....
D) Good luck.
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[quote]Originally posted by Kymera:
<strong>Make sure that you can take the boyfriend out if it come to that. Nothing will make you lose respect in the eyes of your woman like a being on the receiving end of a good #ss-beating at the hands of her Ex. Avoid that if possible, it is embarrassing and painful. Good Luck.</strong><hr></blockquote>
LMAO...
He is jealous and he knows that I'm up to something. She tells him about me and she says he get's uptight and jealous and she's laughs at him for it. I've met him once and I know if it comes down to it, I will have no problem in fighting him but will do everything in my power to avoid it. I'm not a fighter at all.
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One thing I have learned from experience that if a woman will go behind her boyfriends back to see you, don't think twice that she wont do the same thing to you. Twice a girl left their b/f for me and sooner or later they went behind my back to see another guy.. But, also it depends on how serious she is with her b/f. Is it something where they are living together or are they just kind of dating?
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"He who hesitates, hesitates." Feels like deja vu all over again.
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[quote]Originally posted by MorticiaAdams:
<strong>Totally agree with Sowulo..
Also what if she does leave her husband for you .. Whats to say she doesnt do it to you to.
Marriage is a scared union of two people.
It should be respected by others. It means phsically and mentally it is off limits.
There are SOOOOOooo many women in the world.
Its best to keep throwing out the ole hook and look for another that is not already on a line for life. But going for some one that is already married is not a good idea at all.
Whos to say her husband is not the type to go crazy on a man that might hit on his wife or try to take her away. If you think your feelings are strong for her. So was this man who asked her to marry him because he loves her. Keep it as friends and maybe she can help you find some one .
And if shes not married. Well thats a another story. I would play it as a angle as in like asking her if she has any friends that would be intrested. Say something like your nice but your taken and we work together. So maybe you might drop the hint like that and also spark her intrest.
Hope it works out.</strong><hr></blockquote>
Sowulo and Morticai have the answers listen and learn.
If it's meant to be it will happen on it's own.
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I was dating a girl I worked with about a year ago. Her and I had a great relationship. One night, we even found a quiet dark place late at night inside the building near the cubicles to "do it" in. That was pretty cool I must say, but that's a whole other story. But yes it is a risk to take, but not all women are like that.
You should not have to worry if A) you are truly "harrassing" her, or B) if you have any power over whether or not she advances within the company. If you are her boss, then you might have something to consider. Or if you're constantly trying to touch her and she's telling you not to, then you should worry. But I wouldn't really worry about the sexual harrassment thing. It's overhyped. People always assume that just because one might be romantically involved with another within a company that it's automatically sexual harrassment. But that's not always the case.
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[quote]Originally posted by Sowulo:
<strong>A) In the U.S. we have these little workplace laws concerning sexual harrassment. While things may be cool right now and they may well get even better in the near future, should anything go wrong, by dating someone from work your are laying yourself wide open for trouble.
B) If she's not married to the guy there is no reason you can't ask her out but since she's let you know she already has a boyfriend, beware point A....
C) If your position with this employer isn't real important to you, she might well be worth the risk (see points A & B)</strong><hr></blockquote>
Never fish off of the company dock.
It's more trouble than its worth...
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Get a god solid after hours relationship... then lay the hard work on her (or whatever else is hard at the moment ;-)
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[quote]Originally posted by senectus:
<strong>Get a god solid after hours relationship... then lay the hard work on her (or whatever else is hard at the moment ;-)</strong><hr></blockquote>
I think he means 'Go for it'
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[quote]Originally posted by AlienDyne:
<strong>Sowulo has a point here!!!!</strong><hr></blockquote>
No, Sowulo has three points. ;)
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[quote]Morticiaadams:
Marriage is a scared union of two people <hr></blockquote>
Isn't that the truth! I know you meant sacred, but this is probably more true.
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[quote]Originally posted by Bubba:
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Isn't that the truth! I know you meant sacred, but this is probably more true.</strong><hr></blockquote>
ha ha ,,,thats funny,, :D :eek:
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just go talk to her and her b/f
and asked them if they want to participate with you in a threesome.
heheehehehe
:D :p :D
J/K
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[quote]Originally posted by AbSoLuTeZeR0:
<strong>just go talk to her and her b/f
and asked them if they want to participate with you in a threesome.
heheehehehe
:D :p :D
J/K</strong><hr></blockquote>
If only things were that easy then you know I would. But unfortunately at this day and age people will be thrown in prison for asking questions like that.
