I know this isn't computer related, but I could use a little advice. Most of the people here are very smart , inteligent people.
Here's my story in a nutshell...
My exwife and I have been officially divorced for 2 months now. We were married for 14 months when she announced she wanted a divorce. She left me because she "Needed to find herself". This turned out to be BS. The main reason was because she wanted to party with her friends. I let her go out when she wanted, I never held her back from anything. I love her very much. When she told me that she wanted a divorce, I begged and begged. It crushed me. She wanted the divorce so bad that she had the lawyer lie on the paperwork about the separation date. I went along with it becuase I didn't want to drag it out longer. Well prior to and for a little while after the divorce I tried to get back together with her and she wanted nothing to do with it. Even though I was aprehensive about it, keeping in mind that she might do this to me again. I've spent thousands for therapy since Feb, and I've come a long way. Speaking with her family, she has a history, or pattern if you say of creating chaos in her life, (relationships, jobs, etc). I've noticed the job problem. She gets bored and changes jobs every 6 months or so. Well, she tells me last week that she wants to get back together. She has a boyfriend, and I asked about that, she said that she would leave him. We had some disagreements durring the marriage about moving out of state, etc. This is a major issue. I don't know if I want to put myself through the hell I've been through again. She says she wants to make it up to me, but I see us falling back into the same rut we got into again. Now, to complicate things a bit, I've been seeing someone. I'm beginning to feel like I'm falling in love with her. It's too early to say, and in no way am I going to jump the gun, but she is amazing. But I still love my ex-wife. Messed up? Yeah...
I told my Ex that I needed to think about it, and she keeps pressuring me. She's known in the past if I was seeing someone after we split, it never bothered her. Now she's upset about my girlfriend. My ex doesn't know how I feel about my girlfriend, and I'd like to keep it that way for the moment. Part of me wants to take her back, but a bigger part of me wants to move on with my life. I've talked to a lot of my family members and friends about this, the general consensus is to move on. I'm still torn. I really want to explore things with my girlfriend, we have more in common than my ex and I ever did. She's very sweet, more responsible, and more respectful. But my Ex and I were so much in love at one point, and happy. I just don't know if I can forgive and forget.
Hopefully after this longwinded post, someone will read this that's been in this situation before, may have a little insight.
Thanks for reading...
