Invite my aunt to my wedding

Simple question

Should I invite my aunt to our wedding.??

Heres the background.

To put it mildly I cant stand the woman, I dont want her to be there. I am honestly not wanting to invite her to protect Smurfette.
She is the type of woman who comments on everything she sees and does. The reason for not inviting her was a few years back I was at my cousins wedding and she had my cousin in tears at her reception from consitantly complaining about her dress, the bridesmaids, the food, the hall and her choice of music. I swore at that point NOT to invite her to my wedding.
Smurfette says we should invite her to all our famillies will be there, but this is one family member I dont want. I could have a word with her prior to the wedding to keep her mouth shut but I know for a fact she will take no notice and continue making comments about anything she feels like. I know weddings never go as planned and they are always some problems on the big day but I refuse to have Smurfette in tears because something I could of stopped is commenting on her dress and everything else.

What do you guys think

It is your wedding not your aunts. If you don't want her, just don't invite her. If for some reason she shows up, tell her to shut up or leave. Hire some thugs to take care of her. Don't let the damned mongolians near your city wall.

If smurfette doesn't believe she is as bad as you say, perhaps you should invite your Aunt for the afternoon one weekend in order for smurfette to see for herself.

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Originally posted by NooNoo
If smurfette doesn't believe she is as bad as you say, perhaps you should invite your Aunt for the afternoon one weekend in order for smurfette to see for herself.

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Been there and tried that, Invited her round the house a few weeks back. I wont go into details but root canal treatment is probably more enjoyable. Smurfette doesnt really like her either but feels we have to invite her, Which is fair enough but I dont mind her upsetting me on the day I just dont want to have Smurfette getting the grief as well. As for my family they agree with my reasons for not wanting to inviting her as they also know what she is like.

find out when she is going to be out of town and have the wedding then. that way, you can still invite her, but since she already has plans to be out of town, chances are she will not attend.

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Originally posted by Papa Smurf
Simple question

Should I invite my aunt to our wedding.??


What do you guys think

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Simple answer:

No.

Man, its YOUR wedding.

You and Smurfette invite your friends and family YOU want to SEE there.

PERIOD.

Had the same probl at my wedding (few scrores ago...!) and I sent a letter to a particular cousin&family I didnt want to see there, telling him exactly that and my reasons.

Knowing that (plus the fact that if he shoed up, he would be the star of our *** kicking contest) he wrote back a long apologie, with his best wishes. (havent seen him since. Good.)


BTW, congrats.

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Originally posted by Damned Angel
find out when she is going to be out of town and have the wedding then. that way, you can still invite her, but since she already has plans to be out of town, chances are she will not attend.

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Some how I get the feeling she would cancel whatever else it was to attend.... :(

Smurfette, principles is one thing, your wedding day is quite another. I remember quite clearly my mother in law marching up to me during the photo session some 12 years ago demanding that I should load her camera for her, because the 35mm film I bought for her would not fit her 35mm camera.... it went down from there.... I did load the camera despite other people offering to do it, because she insisted LOUDLY that I had bought the wrong film and refused to have anyone else load it. She was so certain I was wrong and that I had ruined her chance to take pictures of her son's wedding :confused: :confused:

Now the mother in law you cannot avoid, but the scene certainly could have been. If Papa Smurf's aunt is even only half as bad as he thinks, you Smurfette are the one that is going to have to deal with it and Papa Smurf will be forced to watch ... ok enough said, /me gets off hobby horse :)

If your family doens't think its a good idea to invite her, by all means don't! You will have a much more enjoyable day without her presence and if she gets pissed @ you then you will see even less of her in the future. So it's a win/win by not inviting her!

Her invitation :flame: You

Best Option! :D

Send her an invitation- then make sure she can't attend. Render her car useless by pulling a couple of spark plug wires. Maybe have her over your house the night before and serve her old potato salad so she has food poisoning, and if she does attend, she'll be too sick to open her mouth.-j/k

Do yourself a favor and save Smurfette the aggravation- cross your beloved aunt off the list

Ran into the same problem with my Husband's mother, but we had to invite her. Had she been an Aunt, no way she would have gotten an invite. I say, you're paying so you get to say who can play, but I vote No, obviously.

I wouldn't invite her. and if she did some how get to the wedding, I would tell her flat out to keep her mouth shut and if she can't handle that I'd forcably remove her. And would.

Send the invatation a week after the wedding.
Darn postal service
Hire the Hells Angels to keep her out.:flame:

it's your wedding, your choice. I'd say no. it should be one of the happiest days of your life. keep it that way. you won't have fun with a cloud over it.

Do NOT invite. I've been to enough and been a part of enough weddings to know that any grief that can be avoided is worth it. Even if that means that your Aunt gets disappointed about not getting invited. "Your invitation must have gotten lost in the mail.", "Our invitation list got messed up and some people got two invitations.", "I know I sent you one, are you sure you didn't get it?", and so on.

A little sage advice for the two of you: WHEN something goes wrong during the wedding ceremony (and no matter how finely detailed you have planned it, something will invariably go wrong), try to remember that a wedding does not make a marriage. Any mistakes or missteps during the wedding are just things you can laugh about in the future. Above all else, enjoy yourselves on your wedding day.

I know what she is like and yes I agree with everything you say about her, But I just didnt want her to miss our wedding as everyone else is going to be there. It seems a bit of a shame to miss her out. Anyway its not her wedding its ours we can decide what we want to happen on that day. If she doesnt like it tough :D .
I'm not going to force you to invite her if you dont want her but at the same time remember there will be drink and a lot of people who feel the same way about her, So it could be fun to see her squirm a bit :thumbs: :thumbs: :thumbs: :thumbs:

Does she at least give half way decent presents?

Can always look at it from the greed aspect.

Greed is good!

Just don't invite her, but instead tape the wedding and mail it to her saying wish you were there!!!


Weddings don't always go according to plan, but there are ways of minimizing potential problems.

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Originally posted by Tacklebox
Send her an invitation- then make sure she can't attend. Render her car useless by pulling a couple of spark plug wires. Maybe have her over your house the night before and serve her old potato salad so she has food poisoning, and if she does attend, she'll be too sick to open her mouth.-j/k

Do yourself a favor and save Smurfette the aggravation- cross your beloved aunt off the list

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Ahhh The Tacklebox School of In Law Relations....


Papa Smurf, I recommend adding a few drops of Visine to one of her drinks and she'll spend the rest of the night on the toilet...

El C-

That should do the trick!!!!

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Originally posted by El Clammino
Ahhh The Tacklebox School of In Law Relations....


Papa Smurf, I recommend adding a few drops of Visine to one of her drinks and she'll spend the rest of the night on the toilet...

El C-

That should do the trick!!!!

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Gonna have to nickname you jesus cause you just resurected one very dead thread...;)

Was to busy to stop by the Lounge earlier today...

Was on phone with a problematic user at about 7.30pm with tears in my eyes trying not to bust out laughing as I was reading what I missed the past day or so...


El C-

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Originally posted by Smurfette

I'm not going to force you to invite her if you dont want her but at the same time remember there will be drink and a lot of people who feel the same way about her, So it could be fun to see her squirm a bit :thumbs: :thumbs: :thumbs: :thumbs:

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Smurfette, People like that never squirm. That is just how they are and most of the time dont know or care what they are saying....

Just my honest $.02

El C-

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Originally posted by El Clammino
Was to busy to stop by the Lounge earlier today...

Was on phone with a problematic user at about 7.30pm with tears in my eyes trying not to bust out laughing as I was reading what I missed the past day or so...


El C-

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Dude, this post is from november last year...:rolleyes:

mmm guess i have been busier than i thought....

Damn that similar threads feature....

Don't mind El C. He's just trying to get his post count up:D

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Curse me for not reading dates!

BTW did the Grand damme ever end up getting invited to the wedding......
and what happened

did all the smurfs sit on her ....

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Originally posted by Mayet
BTW did the Grand damme ever end up getting invited to the wedding......
and what happened

did all the smurfs sit on her ....

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Yeah, I'd like to know what happened, too.

My sister is having the same problem with her sister in law. My sister is getting married. My brother married the wrong woman and everyone in the family says she has some serious problems. My sister doesn't want to inviter her but feels compelled to because she is 'family.'

However today my sister and my sister in law had a nice little fight about what the kids would wear at the wedding. It ended with my sister telling my sister in law that she would either cooperate or get out.
I suggest you tell your aunt the same thing. You're in the situation of having to show some toughness or having to put up with this bully for the rest of your life.

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. This is one of those times. Just grit your teeth, hold your nose and empty the garbage.

Orangeman

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Originally posted by Tacklebox
Don't mind El C. He's just trying to get his post count up:D

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YAH? SO?


I work now, have more time to post, less home improvement projects assigned by Mrs. Clammino....



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Originally posted by El Clammino
[B]I recommend adding a few drops of Visine to one of her drinks and she'll spend the rest of the night on the toilet...

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Does that really work? Do you need alcohol in the drink or will any drink do?

....got a few relatives of my own I'd like to try it on:D

It does work also known as the bartenders best friend. they get sick for a couple of days. But if they go to the hospital, it comes up pretty quick what the cause is. I dont know about the alcohol thing. I think it might work in all beverages.

Evil Clammino


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Your a smart guy, can't you give her a special invitation: es "Get you ticket early, the wedding is in cuba, cause you gota great deal in a hotel," I bet you would help out with the airfare.

just a thought

Veeeeeery old thread here and a lot of new people. Howdy all.

Guess I'd better give ya'all an update.

Things turned nasty last week Smurfette had asked my aunt around the house for a coffee and a chat. The subject of the wedding came up and Smurfette hunted out the pics of her dress, My aunt made a lot of underhand comments about the dress, the location, the music during the time she was with Smurfette. It was only after she left that Smurfette got really upset, I arrived home at saw her in this state and was not a happy guy. I calmed my girl down and went round to my aunts for a showdown. I said a lot of stuff to her but the bottom line was as I was concerend she and her family would not be invited or welcome to the wedding or reception.
She couldnt understand why I was making a fuss and said she was only trying to help. I told her to help by staying away and not to show her face anywhere near us until after the wedding.
Smurfette had been nothing but polite and welcoming to the woman and all she got was a string of abuse and comments which wasnt fair.

So thats it, 3 empty seats and a happier Smurfette guess its all in a days work for PapaSmurf.

It really would be a lot easier if God would let us choose our relatives.:cool:

Congratulations,

Orangeman:D

Just remember what you swore to yourself when you were at your Cousins wedding. Remember how you felt at that moment. You don't want to have people feel that way at your wedding do you? Let alone your own suffering.