Help...please...help

[Kyr0n]

Thankyou all for your advice. Moving out is definately a good option here, so i'm gonna look into that. In the mean time, i'm going behind their backs and i've talked to the landlord(VERY VERY cool guy) He totally understood where i was coming from and he said for me to tell them that the house is rented out to 3 people, not four, so she's gonna hafta get out. I told her, and she's wanting to argue that with him, but there's nothing she can really say about it, this will probably drag out for a month or two though > <IMG SRC="smilies/frown.gif" border="0"> because he's an army guy stationed in korea, and it takes time for us to get up with him.

[amcfreek]

I wonder wich is worse liveing with youre pearents or somebody elses??? if you argue with youre pearents, the arguments over when its over, it must suck to live with an extra set of pearents , who can drag that arguement out , i refuse to rent ever again , i always got stuck somehow, i hear cardboard boxes are free , but you cant get broadband delivered to a box, optional alternative here:::: i wonder if elbatcho has room in his cardboard box????? hes my idol...or maybee that van down by the river????? <IMG SRC="smilies/biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG SRC="smilies/biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG SRC="smilies/biggrin.gif" border="0">

[Kyr0n]

I dont really have to worry about that, she knows better than to argue with me...that's one thing she won't do...and really, she doesn't do anything at all to annoy me, i don't have a thing against her....i just want her to raise the f$%k up out of my house

[Blue Falcon]

Dude, you're screwed.

I'd pick the lesser to the two necessary evils (move out or kick her mom out). Which one will keep your friends?

But then again, if they were any kind of friends, they'd understand your position and would have moved her mom out a long time ago.

[cyberhh]

As I see it you only have three options:

1. Deal with it - if nothing else is avail to you you can always just accept the situation and continue as it is.

2. Have her mom pay rent - she is there and in violation of your lease - they have seen fit to violate the agreement you all found acceptable without discussing it honestly with you - it is not a democracy - you need to have a consensus - all should be in agreement, otherwise feel free to envite a group of homeless folksin to live with you, the garage band down the street and six or seven mimes - then when they complain use the "It's my house too" excuse.

3. Leave - you are now living in the same house as a married couple and before too long they will need thier space. They may already realize it and be pushing you out by using her mother. If that is the case, move back with your parents, get a smaller place, or find other roommates - any way you cut it bieng single you may be happier with other single people.

[Johnny Blaze]

Option # 4

Envite some of your buds over and have them stay a week. This will bring up the issue of unwanted guests. Have them sleep on the floor , in the tub, wherever there's room.
Let them see what it feels like .
Better yet grab some bums off the street and offer them a nice home.

[Kyr0n]

Well, the way it looks, i'm going to be loosing them as friends anyway it goes down. Wether it be 1)her staying there and me accepting it and resenting them for it, or 2)me being an a$$h0l3 and going off on everyone, then leaving. 3)Or, just me leaving(cause they'd have to move out too, cause they cant possibly pay my part of rent/bills)

So, i might as well have fun with it and choose 2

[Papa Smurf]

Have you just tried sitting down and talking about it. Ask you mates whats the score and inquire about the lenght of time the old battle axe is staying. If she is there for the long haul then why they didnt talk to you about it. your helping with the rent etc. In fact it YOU thats helping paying to keep the old bird warm. As for youur mates unable to pay the rent once you leave explain to them that her mother will help out cause it looks like she's going to take your place anyway.
Fraid theres no real easy way out of this one. Direct full on confrontation seems to be the best way, at least it gets everything out in the open to discuss it in a adult way.

My impression is the old dear is there to stay. So I would get the hell out of there ASAP.

Let us know how you get on.
Cheers
PapaSmurf

[Snommis69]

Originally posted by Johnny Blaze:
<STRONG>Option # 4

Envite some of your buds over and have them stay a week. This will bring up the issue of unwanted guests. Have them sleep on the floor , in the tub, wherever there's room.
Let them see what it feels like .
Better yet grab some bums off the street and offer them a nice home.</STRONG>

I like it! What's good for the goose....

[wholeeo]

I had the same problem except it was my buddies sister. She didn't work and just got out of the airforce. She lived in the basement and he paid her part of the bills. I thought it was great until he started coming up short. She wouldn't get a job because nothing paid as much as she used to make. The last straw came when she ran the washer and dryer at 3 am. I kicked them both out and ate beans for 6 months until I got out of school. Kick them all out and cancel all the useless bills. good luck <IMG SRC="smilies/biggrin.gif" border="0">

[antonye]

Time for some advanced underhand tactics if you ask me.

I reckon you should start hitting on her, in subtle ways at first. Make sure she catches you naked a few times when you're coming in/out of the bathroom.

Then you should leave some "suggestive" magazines around until she says something about them and you could tell her that you don't mind her borrowing them.

Start dropping subtle hints into conversations about how you find the older women much more attractive "if you know what I mean" and then wink at her.

Be careful that it doesn't backfire though...
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[EvilCabbage]

Stifle her in her sleep, use a thick pillow. If need be, club her a few times with a nice heavy candlestick (always worked in 'Clue'..), then put the body where no one will ever find it .. like in the Billy Ray Cyrus section of your local record store.

[grosas9]

plot with your male friend.

here are some ideas to discuss
have a huge drug/alcohol party
when rent comes up again...ask her for 1/4
does she make Long distance calls..(evil smile)
is here mom still married
plot with your landlord, offer him/her money to say something about her being there
send her to a nursing home

good luck man, i know the feeling

[King Grover]

In my eyes, it don't matter whether her mom is living there or not. Your friends got married and are still living with you.


YOU MUST LEAVE!!!

[Kyr0n]

Originally posted by dweedo:
<STRONG>In my eyes, it don't matter whether her mom is living there or not. Your friends got married and are still living with you.


YOU MUST LEAVE!!!</STRONG>

HAH, you sound like my grandparents or something. You seem to not understand the fact that I HAVE NOWHERE ELSE TO LIVE...it's been this way for a long time, and just because they got married hasn't changed anything.

As for whoever suggested having an adult conversation with them, that's not possible...they may be 18 and 19...but they both act 12 or 13...at best. The girl throws tantrums when she doesn't get her way..and the husband is too whipped to do anything about it.