Wanting a woman that's already tied...

[opiate]

I was talking to her today...

So I asked her how serious she was with her b/f. She said: "I guess we're serious but anything can happen." I then said: "YES IT CAN!" She then had a very sweet innocent smile on her face. Then I said: "Will you let me know when something does happen?" She said: "You will be the first to know!"

So, I will continue to flirt and drop small hints so she'll know I want her and just silently wait for her current relationship to end.

I know if all else fails, she has a friend that likes me.

I asked her to lunch today. I'll take her somewhere new and classy.

Thanks everyone!

[[NeoZeeD]]

i still like my plan better to do a threesome.

also if you do, record it and sell it on ebay and make cash off of it.


heheheh MWHHAHAHAHAHHLAHAH

sorry im at work and its slow and im losing my mind

[Mayhem]

[quote]Originally posted by MorticiaAdams:
<strong>Totally agree with Sowulo..


Marriage is a scared union of two people.
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I agree marriage is scary!!!

[Mayhem]

It has been my experience that workplace relationships almost never work. The few exceptions are the ones who had a relationship before they started working together.

The main reason these relationships fail has little to do with the couple IN the relationship. What usualy happens is this: Regardless of how well you hide your relationship from co-workers, they will inevitably find out. That's when the rumors start. and once the rumors start flying, you will hear all sorts of things that she "said" or "did" behind your back. Most never actualy happened but you will hear about them just the same, and she will hear things about you. And thus is planted the seeds of suspicion. and when the relationship fails you will hear even more, until you can no longer work together.

My guess, by the things you said, is that the rumors are already flying and if I were you I would be wary of her boyfriend showing up with a shotgun. I'm sorry, but I have seen it happen.

I have made it a rule for years not to date co-workers, despite the fact that there have been several that were "my type", one I would have called my perfect mate. But as long as you work together a relationship is just too stressed to have a chance.

[Shard92]

[quote]Originally posted by opiate:
<strong>I was talking to her today...

So I asked her how serious she was with her b/f. She said: "I guess we're serious but anything can happen." I then said: "YES IT CAN!" She then had a very sweet innocent smile on her face. Then I said: "Will you let me know when something does happen?" She said: "You will be the first to know!"

So, I will continue to flirt and drop small hints so she'll know I want her and just silently wait for her current relationship to end.

I know if all else fails, she has a friend that likes me.

I asked her to lunch today. I'll take her somewhere new and classy.

Thanks everyone!</strong><hr></blockquote>


First of all, I'm no expert, but I have seen many things happen. I agree with whoever said ( sorry long post and I don't remember who it was) that you should never assume you know what someone will do. Keep in mind, no matter how much you think it's impossible, ANYTHING is possible when dealing with another person. Personalites are very different, no matter how similiar they seem. Also personalities can and often do change. Now to your post, I think you are on to something. She knows how you feel, more or less. Let her make the move. Just remember too, if she leaves him for you, what's stopping her from leaving you for someone else? The main thing is be careful. If you are as good of friends as you say, you don't want to blow that either. I've lost a lot of friends because we "took it to the next level". Good luck!!

To those who have the problems with their mates being jealous.... All I can say.... 1) be honest with them. Don't give them reason to be suspicous. 2) Maybe sit down and talk to them about the situation. However, I know there are a lot of people still out there that don't believe men and women can be just friends, so be careful. Word of caution. I can only relate my experiences and how I would feel. Like I said above, there are all kinds of personalities.

Good luck all.

[I.R. Admin]

Since I.R. Admin, I have these three wisdoms to share with you, Opiate:

Happiness lies not in the look of forbidden fruit, but in its taste!

The passion we do not conquer will, in time, reconcile us to any means that will aid its gratification

Desire and longing are the whips of God

Take care...

[Mauser]

I agree with Sosolo: Leave well enough alone. We just went through a workshop on Work Place Harassment (since we had a case similar to want you want to develop). Things might seem onky dory now, but third parties or if she decides she does like you more, your hiney is going to burning worst than eating red hot peppers! Not to mention law suits. Best keep romance out of the same work place.

[Morticia Addams]

[quote]Originally posted by *MAYHEM*:
<strong>

I agree marriage is scary!!!

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Damn my spell check button is down for the count again. DOH!!!!

[I.R. Admin]

[quote]Originally posted by MorticiaAdams:
<strong>

Damn my spell check button is down for the count again. DOH!!!!</strong><hr></blockquote>

That ain't a spelling mistake, it's a Freudian Slip!

[Stalemate]

I'm dowright impressed to see that most advice given here was a slap in the face to the "fact" that males only think with their private parts when it comes to relationships.

A lot of comments were made intelligently and expressed uncanny wisdom.

I'm not giving my opinion on this, as the case is pretty much closed and others have already given excellent advice.

Hope things work out for you, Opiate.

[http://forums.windrivers.com/cgi-bin/forum1/noncgi]

Don't be another foole...

Tell her flat out how you feel - you want more from this relationship. If she doesn't want to go that way now, move on. Spend less time with her - she can still be a good friend but at least you know where you stand and you won't make a fool of youself. If she wants to go forward with it, be prepared to sacrifice your job, because one of you will most likely have to sooner or later.

I tell people all the time: strip naked and bend over as far backwards as you can in front of a mirror. Isn't that view attractive??? Now think how the "other" person is viewing you as you bend over backwards trying to please them. Take a dose of self-worth and call me in the morning.

Kind of a wake up call usually. And remember, an attractive person(ality) is the one who seems to be in control of their life. Clean up and follow your own path.

[Tazdrummer]

I am posting for two reasons....

1) Marriage is a wonderful thing when you find the right one. I truly found the right one and it has been better than I ever dreamed of. Mind you, there has been a bump or two, but it we made it and as long as we are honest with each other and we love each other, there aint nothing we cant get through.

2) The person who posted before me needs to change something in his profile because it is showing his name as the path to the avatar he was trying to use at one time!! LOL

[Mad Machinist]

Just be aware ...sexual harrassment is not crap...the way the laws are written, you are guilty till proven innocent......just be careful....

[3fingersalute]

I've been on both sides of this scenario before, and let me tell you, when I was the b/f before, the other guy (in this case Opiate), , ended up with a very nasty looking black eye and a rather nasty looking nose.


I guess what I'm trying to say is, be careful who's toes you're tramping on!!!!